How Your Friends Affect You

I had an interesting experience that made me realize how important it is to hang out with the right people because of how much they end up affecting you.  I went to meet up with a group of my friends who are very positive, awesome people.  They give off a good vibe and feel good to be around.  They're loving and are fun to be around.  I'm all pumped up to see them and when I get there, I meet some of their friends that I've never heard of before, a guy and a girl.  They were both very nice and gave me a friendly introduction.  As the night went on, the guy ended up passing out on my friend's couch and I learned more and more about the girl.  She isn't doing too great and said at one point, "I don't really feel happy ever."  She just recently got kicked out by her roommates, she finds herself disgusting and she is addicted to heroin.  She is very depressing to be around and the crazy part is I think she prefers it to be that way!

I was in an amazing mood because my day was freaking awesome.  I felt bad for her, hearing her talk about how bad things were, but it wasn't a mood killer.  I was there to have a good time with my friends.  We caught each other up on what we all have been up to and shared stories and took turns playing music.  The depressing girl shared, too, but her stories and songs were all about how bad things are, or had depressing lyrics.  After a while, I realized something happening.  Everyone else's stories and songs were starting to sound more like hers.  We were all finding old stories and songs we used to like that were relatable to her.  There were way more positive people around, but the negativity was not only there, but dominant.  I caught on to this for the first time while being in the situation and tried to keep the positivity up.  I played music by Gessaffelstein, which is electronic music with a very deep and a little dark sound.  No lyrics.  My friends and I enjoyed it because he's a good artist and easy to move to.  The girl enjoyed it, too, so everyone was content.  It livened up for a bit and then we all sort of sunk back down with her.  I ended up leaving when I had my opportunity.  I still was feeling good when I left, but definitely not as good as I felt before I hung out with them.  

Through this experience, I realized how much the people you spend time around affect you.  Find friends that are positive and happy.  Friends that are motivated and do what they enjoy doing.  Friends with common interests as you.  If you hang out with people who all hate their lives, they are going to talk to you about how bad everything in life is and you will eventually agree.  The conversations you will end up having will be mainly negative and you'll be forced to have that as a topic that's on your mind.  

Surround yourself with people who are going to be good for you.  If you want to be more motivated, hang out with people who are motivated.  If you want to be happy, hang out with people who enjoy their lives.  Be around people who act how you want to act, because whether you like to admit it or not, the people you're around influence you.  

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." - Jim Rohn

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